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The Art of Dressing Elegantly – For Women of a Certain Age: Basic Rules 1 & 2

Below are basic rules to follow in developing the art of dressing elegantly:

Rule No. 1: Do not wear tight-fitting clothes.

Can we really look good in our autumn years? Yes, we can! Women come in all colors and shapes but we all get the extra flab in our bodies as we age. We should not put our mature figures into form-fitting clothes that may have looked good on us in our 20’s and 30’s. Be realistic! If you have clothes that you really like and don’t want to part with, have them altered to fit you better. If you decide to wear leggings to go to the corner store or a yoga class, make sure you wear a tunic, a long shirt, or a cardigan that covers your bottom. Sell your clothes or exchange them to buy the aforementioned pieces of clothing, if purchasing new sets seem too much for you. 

Rule No. 2: When in doubt, wear separates.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Be honest but don’t despair with what you see. You may be top-heavy and slim at the bottom; slim at the top and heavy at the bottom; top and bottom heavy, etc. Whatever your shape is, it is almost always safe to wear separates.

A woman who is top heavy and slim at the bottom will look good in a loose top that covers the hips, and a slim skirt that is just below the knees (or a pair of slim trousers that will balance the big top). It is probably time to donate all the mini-skirts you still have in your closet. However, if you’re lucky enough to still have a good figure, you may get away with “doing” the usual list of “don’ts”. Be adventurous and bold if you please, but keep it classy.

In the image below, the British actress Charlotte Rampling wears a simple pant suit, black handbag, and black wedged heels. She is very slim, but her jacket grazes her figure just right – not tight nor loose. Her standing collar could have allowed a small string of pearls but she chose not to, thus emphasizing her long neck. She could also have worn a bracelet, a ring, and a watch, but her style is relaxed and unfussy. It is a very simple outfit, yet rich and elegant. You don’t have to follow Ms. Rampling’s style. Just take a cue from how she carries herself and develop your own.


Next: Rules 3 & 4

The Art of Dressing Elegantly: For Women of a Certain Age (Introduction)

Aging can be traumatic for both men and women. The pressure to look good, however, is mostly placed upon women by an unforgiving society. Magazines, TV programs all feature women with flawless skin, lustrous hair, and gleaming smiles, wrapped (or unwrapped) in clothes that emphasize their shapely figures.

The process of getting old is unavoidable. No matter how much we fight nature’s course, time will make its mark on our faces, hair, and bodies. Those who can afford it spend a fortune on plastic surgery or regular non-invasive procedures to slow or counter the aging process. Some look terribly different from their former selves; others just look worse than ever.

Yet, women don’t have to take that direction. There are more reasonable options available to us. We really need to correct our attitude towards aging, but we don’t have to surrender to it. We can fight it gracefully. Mature women no longer struggle with the meaning of life or agonize over what they want in life. We know what we want. It doesn’t matter that we weren’t blessed with great beauty. We want to look good!

Sure, women have different tastes and styles in clothing. What we strive to achieve is elegance, whether casual or not. How does one explain elegance? Merriam-Webster defines it as refined grace or dignified propriety; dignified gracefulness or restrained beauty of style. It basically means propriety in both dress and manners. This article will attempt to focus on how we can dress elegantly without breaking the bank.

Whether we are in our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, or older, we need to take care of our health. Practice good grooming, eat right, exercise, and stay active. Wear pajamas all day if you want, as long as you’re in the privacy of your homes. Once you’re outside those boundaries, you need to consider the propriety of your appearance. Make sure your clothes are clean and free from wrinkles; and your shoes clean. A little vanity never hurts. It can motivate us to take pride in ourselves.

We do not have to be slaves to fashion or spend a lot of money to look good. Choose clothes in classic styles that fit well and hide the flaws in your body. A simple wardrobe can consist of tops, skirts, and trousers in neutral hues (black, brown, gray, white); a few dresses, and jeans for casual wear. Your shoes and handbags can be in any color that will match or even enhance your clothes. What you buy depends on your personal style and finances.

Next: Rules 1 & 2